Well Addy had her Denver Developmental Screening today through our local Parents As Teachers. When we brought Addy home last August she scored at the four month level. Addy was only rolling from back to side, could hold her head up and had very good visual tracking. She did have a social smile but it wasn't very often. She didn't bat at objects or put anything to her mouth. Today Addy is sitting independently, going from laying down to sitting, putting everything in her mouth (but doesn't swallow a thing), she can transfer objects hand to hand, bang objects together, pick up small objects, play ball by rolling, get up on all fours and rocks, babbles and uses jargon, she is at least putting food to her mouth (reason for the oreo around her face above!), uses six signs (when she really wants to) claps and plays Pat-A-Cake and Peek-A-Boo, laughs out loud (a lot!), and knows family from strangers. She has mastered all items through the age of seven months and received credit for items up to age 10 months. I am so happy that she is doing so well but in all honesty I'm still a little disappointed that she isn't doing more. Why do I feel this way? Since she has been with us she has been through two intensive care hospital stays within a month for Rotavirus and another stomach ailment which made her suffer at least 15 seizures and dehydration and weight loss, four surgeries, staph infections and a c-diff infection! What is wrong with her gains? Why does it make me feel like a failure that she isn't waving Bye Bye, using true words, pointing to body parts or pictures in a book, crawling or pulling to a stand? I feel like I have failed as her mother somehow. Is it normal to feel this way? Is there more I should be doing to make her all that she can be or should I just relax and realize that she is going to learn in her own time and chill out???
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Have you ever heard the song 'Shine' from the Signing Times Series? Whenever I was upset over Megan's development I would listen to that song and realize...Megan is going to do things when she is ready and in her own time and nothing we as parents do will change that, we just have to accept them and be proud of all they have done. And it seems your little peanut is doing exceptionally well considering what she has gone through. HUGS to you!!!
You AND she are doing wonderfully! Our children don't develop on a regular time frame anyway, so ALL progress is awesome. PLUS considering everything she has been through?! Are you kidding, it's a miracle she isn't at the same level or regressed! I know you want her to be the best little one she can, I do too with my little guy, as long as we keep loving them and giving them opportunities to grow, we're doing the best we can for them. Relax, keep doing what you do and as each skill is mastered you move on to the next. It's not a race, it's a journey, ENJOY it!
HUGS! I think it takes awhile to realize that we can only do our best, and yes, they WILL do their best too. :) I used to beat myself up and worry if I was doing enough, but it was counterproductive. She is SO amazingly beautiful!
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